my favorite d&d thing is when someone flubs like a really obvious perception roll or something and the dm gets to be like, “well, you’re pretty sure you’re in a room but you could be wrong”
it is either really wet or really dry, you’re not entirely sure
One time a guy in our party rolled a nat 20 on a perception check, but there was nothing around he didnt already see, so the DM said “You’re not quite sure, but for a few seconds it seems like you’re standing on a giant’s table, surrounded by 5 Giants. Your party seems to look stiff and fake, and Large papers and Dice are strewn around you. Then, everything goes back to normal.”
i just really hate when deliberate cruelty is interpreted as “life is unfair”
that is not life being unfair; that is a person being unfair. that is a person being malicious. no one is under obligation to treat people like shit just to prove that life is unfair!!! if it’s unfair, then try to make it fair! Help people! Be kind! Try to make things better! don’t just sneer and say “that’s just how life is”!
do not make life worse for people and excuse your actions by saying they would have been treated badly anyway!
The “life is unfair” excuse to me feels like a grown-up version of the “but everyone is doing it” excuse that we’re told doesn’t excuse our behavior as children.