if we imagine for a moment that there might be cosmic purposes behind things that happen, which i haven’t solidified my opinion on and probably never will, i think me being born trans wasnt a mistake. i would certainly rather be cis, but i also think that if id been born cis i would be a completely unrecognizable person right now. being trans, coming out, facing my transition alone, asserting and proving myself, has given me so much courage and strength and empathy and persistence. i hate not being a cis man but i also cant disregard the gifts i’ve received from my transness, and the fact that it’s shown me how much im capable of.
hey ik we’re rejecting “softboys” this year but can we not throw trans boys and gay men under the bus while we do that because expressing femininity and desiring to be soft and in touch with your emotions isnt a bad fucking thing
like i feel as if a lot of you have forgotten what kind of softboy is the one we’re trying to avoid. guys who put on a persona of being cute and approachable and then using their position to take advantage of women and others on social media, in the workplace, etc and its really weird that you all are reducing it to just… boys who like pastels and wearing flower crowns and shit and its weird
LGBT kids coming out to their parents is literally one of the most heartbreaking things re: heteronormativity. Like it’s considered 100% normal for LGBT *children* to beg their parents to support and love them. The fact that most people will say stuff like “I’m still the same person” and “I hope you still love me” is… disgusting, because the lack of love and support is the assumed outcome. & then you have parents who will cry, ask their child “where did I go wrong?” or even saying things like “I’ll support you no matter what” because it’s the norm (and socially acceptable thing to do) to not support your child if/when you find out they’re LGBT… That said, parents accepting their child for being LGBT does not automatically make them a good parent and not accepting/loving your child for being LGBT is straight up child abuse.
Y’all understand that it is literally not possible for gay couples to be heteronormative. A masculine gay man dating a feminine gay man isn’t heteronormative. A butch lesbian dating a femme lesbian isn’t heteronormative. They’re fucking gay. Telling gay people they’re somehow enforcing heteronormativity by being themselves and dating another gay person is nasty and ridiculous.
Today’s mood is cis gays throwing tantrums because they agree with everything I said but they’re not willing to admit that they have shared experiences with gay trans people
So apparently last year the National Park Service in the US dropped an over 1200 page study of LGBTQ American History as part of their Who We Are program which includes studies on African-American history, Latino history, and Indigenous history.
Like. This is awesome. But also it feels very surreal that maybe one of the most comprehensive examinations of LGBTQ history in America (it covers sports! art! race! historical sites! health! cities!) was just casually done by the parks service.
I feel the mountains burn inside 