im just really mad bc people in this fandom will get so fucking heated over mixed-race headcanons and assume that every darkskinned edit of a character just automatically means they’re black and that so-and-so isn’t black/more unsavory words and they’ll defend it until they’re frothing at the mouth. all that really says is that you people think that being black is really the worst thing you can be and we’re the only ones willing risk whatever reputations we have in, whatever semblance of respect people may have for us, because we’re already crossing the line by being black, in order to defend ourselves
People also seem to think that when facing these types of people, it’s a lot better to be funnie than you know,,,stand up for people. Being funny gains them brownie points. But I’ll be damned if anyone actually tries talking seriously for a second on an issue they seem to care so much about.
Here’s a really simple thing a lot of messy people never learned: clean people are clean people because they do little household tasks as soon as they need to be done. Messy people? We leave it for some undefined future time, which often ends up being never. It’s much, much easier to wash one meal’s worth of dishes, or put away one load of laundry, or clean off a countertop with only a day’s mess on it than it is to handle those things that have been left for days or weeks or months.
Becoming a less messy person is about doing the little stuff more often. Put everything away when you get home from the store. Clear off the coffee table once a day instead of every few weeks. Over time, those little tasks and habits will become instinctive, and you’ll be on your way to being a recovered messy person. You’ll also find you have no need for intense, whole-house marathon cleans.
If you’re a messy person, you can change. You’ll probably never be an effortlessly neat person, but that’s fine! You’ll be a kinda messy person who cleans up after yourself, and who has a not-messy home. And that’s a great goal to have.
And spare us the comments like, “Who doesn’t know this already?” Lots of us, so hush. If you already know and do this, congratulations on your immaculate home. This advice isn’t meant for you, so feel free to take a seat on the nearest (undoubtedly spotless) chair or couch.
Reblogging to add a reminder that I’m never going to be OK with someone
coming into the comments on one of my posts to be an asshole to
someone looking for support or advice. I know I can’t control what
people say or do, but within the community I’ve created, I have zero
patience for that bullshit. If someone comes here and says that they’re
having difficulty because of the circumstances of their life, it’s my
job to make sure they can get the resources and support that will help
them, and to tell anyone being a shithead about it to go somewhere else.
Not on my posts, people.
I feel the mountains burn inside 